Are you avoiding something at the moment? Are you fooling yourself about it and hoping the problem might go away? Perhaps it feels easier when you’re burying your head in the sand a little?

We are all guilty of ignoring things we don’t want to face and we can become really good at fooling ourselves. I know I have!

 By seeing things as you want to see them it helps you to make sense of what’s going on. 

But it’s not always helpful. In fact it rarely ever is!  You don’t see things as they really are and you miss things that are right in front of you.

It usually festers and becomes a much bigger issue than if you’d addressed it to start with. 

So why do we do it?!?

Wouldn’t you rather deal with things so you can move on?

I now try to look at things differently and be curious about what I might not be seeing, what I’m ignoring or what I’m fooling myself about. I don’t always get it right, but I’m better at spotting it before it becomes a problem in my life.

So, try my 4 simple tips to stop avoiding something so you can move on quicker:

1. Time.  Give yourself 10 minutes to explore what you’re fooling yourself about and perhaps you can see there’s an alternative way out and it’s not so scary after all 🙂
2. Curiosity.  What might you be ignoring? Start to become aware of what you are fooling yourself about.Acknowledge it for a moment and give it a bit of attention. How you feel about will start to change… 
3. Look at it with a fresh pair of eyes. What are you missing or haven’t you noticed before? Is there something else going on that might offer a solution.
4. Let go. What assumptions are you making? Ask different questions so you gain more clarity about what might actually be happening.

Remember:  Start small and build from there. 

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S.  What one thing are you ignoring right now? By doing something different you will start to find a solution that works for you. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?

P.P.S I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!

Reach me at natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

Do you find yourself stuck in the same patterns over and over? Do you continuously attract the wrong kinds of people in your life, and find yourself in unhealthy relationships? Are you always broke? Or do you find yourself in jobs you hate?

There’s so much information out there about how to change your patterns of behaviour. Perhaps you’ve tried CBT, Counselling, Mindfulness, or Coaching.

But, you’re still stuck and you feel powerless to create the changes you want, despite knowing what you ‘should’ be doing differently.

Perhaps there’s a deeper ‘knowing’ that what’s holding you back comes from something older, something deeper than just your current life situation. Perhaps this pattern feels like it doesn’t even ‘belong’ to you.

Let’s look at the bigger picture – what is your soul trying to tell you?

Every choice we make holds energy. In fact, energy can’t die, it can only change. So what happens to the energy of that choice we’ve made in this lifetime? And how about from a past lifetime? Where is it stored and held?

You may have heard of the Akashic Records, or “The Book of Life”. This is where every choice, from past and present lives, are recorded. It’s literally the book of YOUR life.

Your Akashic Record holds information about who you are at Soul Level. Having access to this deep level of information about yourself, you suddenly become very clear on the steps you need to take so that you can become perfectly aligned to who you truly are.

We can also uncover useful things about your Soul’s journey through all your lifetimes to discover what’s still energetically holding you back. When we clear the energy that’s still holding you back from previous past life experiences, you can let go of current unhelpful patterns of behaviour.

You start manifesting the life you are here to experience.

It’s my belief that we are not here to experience hardship in our life. So why can life still feel like a struggle? We are here to become a true expression of who we are at Soul Level. When we understand the secrets of the Akashic Records and our Soul, there’s no holding us back!

If you are curious to know more about how breaking these patterns of behaviour can truly free you to make new choices and create a new and exciting reality, then get in touch with me.

Do you hate having difficult conversations? Do you find yourself lost for words when you are trying to express how you feel? Do you struggle to speak up and say what you’re truly thinking? Or do you get frustrated when conversations don’t go your way?

In our modern world, I believe we’re loosing the art of communication. We’ve forgotten how to have an honest and empowering conversation face to face. Although technology has its benefits, we have started to hide behind mediums like FaceBook or text messaging in order to communicate.

I never forget the time (in the days I worked in an office) when I got an email from a colleague to ask me if I wanted to have a meeting in 10 minutes. Nothing wrong with that, except she was sitting less than 3 feet away from me! I couldn’t quite believe it!

Not engaging with people has its consequences: We don’t feel seen or heard and we can become lost in our own world where we can feel disengaged and disconnected.

We also begin to fear speaking up and being able to have difficult, but necessary, conversations. We avoid confrontation at all costs and then relationships break down; at home, at work, and with friends.

What if it could be different? And, instead we can learn to speak up, tell others what we are thinking and feeling, and everyone can feel good about it!

Here’s how you can change the quality of conversations:

1. Avoid technology – Instead of sending a message, pick up the phone and call someone. Arrange a Skype call or catch up for dinner or a coffee so you can enjoy each other’s company!
2. Truth and Honesty – Start talking from the heart. Speak truthfully and honestly about what’s going on for you. When we are hurt or feel wronged it’s easy to blame someone else for how we feel. Take responsibility for how you are feeling. Others will listen to you rather than feeling they are being blamed.
3. Listen – We can sometimes be focused on what we want to contribute rather than really listening to what the other person is saying. Next time you are chatting to someone focus on what they are saying so you can respond and the other person feels heard.
4. Outcome – How would you like the conversation to go? How do you want to feel afterwards? How do you want the other person to feel? Focus on this outcome and your conversation will start to flow in that direction.

All of these points shape the outcome of a conversation. As we get better at having these authentic conversations, we start to see our relationships change for the better. What’s not to like about that?!

 Remember:  Start small. Start having a conversation in a different way. Is there someone that you struggle to communicate more? Your boss, your partner? Your kids? How can you start to have a different conversation with them; one that is more empowering, more honest and one that is focused on moving forward?

 P.S I’d love to hear from you…..